Over five years ago, suffered a brutal wrongful termination. Stood poised in an open window in my 25th floor apartment. Had no hope. Felt like I had let down my family, friends, coworkers and loving wife. Was all alone. Had pleaded with anyone and everyone I knew for help. None responded. Was injured and disabled. Would hobble down to the beach late at night. Couldn’t sleep. Nightmares and evil thoughts raced through my head. Screamed to the universe, god, nature … anyone! Why are you punishing me?
Due to my injuries, DRs prescribed opioid medications. I’m a public health professional specially trained to keep people off opioids. Substituted with an alternative medication. My team at Hawaiian Electric loved my work. Manager said I was their MVP. HECO offered me a full-time position. Perfect fit. Yes! Would love to make this permanent.
HECO required a drug test. Spoke with HR about my medication. Rep Liz Deer told me I would be fine. HR director Shana Buco allowed me to move forward. No problem! HECO fired me two weeks later due to my medication. Kicked me out of the building. Treated me as a criminal drug thug.
Nobody would ever hire me again! Hawaiian Electric CEO Connie Lau, Liann Ebesugawa, Susan Li, Thao Tran and Shana Buco — all could have saved me; all refused to help me … an older, disabled White male. My career ended. Professional life ended. Was hopeless! Asian female management cast me adrift.
As an addiction counselor, advise my clients that the best way to dig out of deep, dark depression is to help others. Looking down from my window, my inner voice said I could take the easy one-step forward or use this incident as motivation to give back to a frustrated world. Regardless how bad it is (or think it is), others are worse off.
Last week, read an impassioned appeal from a woman, Aubree Childs. Didn’t know her personally. We were connected on social media. She was on the ledge. Could hear her cries in the words she posted. She was facing a DVRO (domestic violence restraining order) and was without an attorney. Had represented myself in battles to be returned to employment. Was unsuccessful, but had experience navigating courts pro se — as a self-represented party. Reached out to Aubree.
Informed her that she needed an attorney. Can’t afford one, she said. Can’t find someone to represent me pro bono — for free, she told me. “I’m hopeless and all alone. I’ll just have to leave it in god’s hands.” I know that feeling being hopeless and alone. Know god likely isn’t coming to rescue her.
Told her I would help her; she wouldn’t be alone. Promised I would not leave her and my word is my honor, “I’ll stand with you to the end.” Said “if you must appear without an attorney, I’ll do my best to prepare you.” Can’t legally represent her. And I’m not qualified to represent her even if the court would allow. She needs professional guidance.
Aubree is in trouble. I’m not writing this post to increased her burden. Hope someone reads this story and reaches out. Contact ClearHealthLife. I’ll pass your information to Aubree.
On the other hand, Aubree fired me as her FREE assistance. I spent about 20 hours reviewing the history. Told her numerous times that I’m not competent to provide qualified guidance. In addition, she’s extremely emotional and ranting to others, posting unhelpful comments on social media, accusing others falsely of rape or abuse, and digging a deeper hole for herself. “If you want to represent yourself,” I warned, “you must discipline yourself.”
BACKGROUND
Aubree had a successful career for many years. Was married for 23 years. Says her husband was a decent guy and they have four beautiful girls. Aubree seemed to suffer a mid-life crisis she claimed. Met a handsome, athletic Brazilian. Fell for him. Divorced her husband. Ran off with the new man.
Aubree told me she was counting on god’s help. I said, “You violated god’s law. You hurt your husband and four girls. I don’t think god will now come to your rescue.” Advised her to obtain competent representation or prepare a solid defense of her actions.
Due to incidents with her four daughters and the Brazilian, Aubree lost custody of the girls to her former husband. They were all angry with her. Aubree then became pregnant by the Brazilian. They had an adorable son. Married the Brazilian.
Relations soured. Brazilian moved in with another woman. Claims Aubree abused him. Sought a permanent DVRO against her and wanted full custody of their son. Now wants a divorce. How does a single mother defend against a mountain of charges and hostile partner by herself? God is not on her side. She tasted from the Tree of Knowledge in her former marriage. God kicked her out of paradise into the cold, brutal world. Aubree now suffers alone.
Again, told Aubree she was not alone. I’m highly resourceful. Spent a long, late night last Friday working on a framework for a defense. Felt I could make a strong case to the judge. Can’t do that legally. Could I teach Aubree to represent herself in a short time? Huge unknown.
Saturday, emailed Aubree a probable question the judge might ask and she would need to answer:
Good morning Ms. Childs,
I hear you when you say you deeply love your son. The facts in this case are complex and convoluted. Before we dig into these issues, answer me one question. You state that you are not working. You appear without attorney — no pro bono assistance and apparently cannot afford an attorney. I see here that you requested a filing fee waiver claiming insufficient income. How will you convince this court that you can provide adequately for you and your son?
Aubree refused to answer. Again asked. Aubree refused to cooperate with me. Had summarized what she reported to me in our hours of discussion. Professionals generally provide their clients with a “worst-case” scenario to not give false hope. Even suggested a negotiated settlement to end all the fighting.
Aloha Aubree ~
Rough conversation. Proud of you for the courage and love in your heart. If we summarize from a Christian perspective, it might help you manage this situation. God offered Adam & Eve paradise, but demanded their obedience. They failed. God forced them into the cold, brutal world where they suffered disease, famine, pestilence and death. Obey God !!!You disobeyed God. You admit; you recognize your decision. You met Satan in your current husband. He has cheated you, lied about you, used you. You live in Hell. You disobeyed God.
Husband now wants his son. Tough on you, of course. But do you want to live around Satan the rest of your life? Do you want this presence in your beautiful world? You failed … twice. You sinned. Jesus however forgives you. God forgives you. This world does not.
Jesus forgives your sin. Jesus loves you. Jesus says go forward and sin no more. Husband 1 wants the girls. Let him. Husband 2 wants the son. Let him. Both will provide care for the children. Both will forever speak negatively about you. They will never forgive you. The first is angry and seeks to hurt you — forever. The second simply wanted to use you and can never truly face you after cheating you. He will gaslight you, as he has been doing. Neither can be a positive energy in your life going forward.
Jesus forgives and offers redemption. You can live the life of love, joy and harmony that you hold in your heart. You can find a man who will truly treat you as you deserve. If you remain connected to these two X-husbands, you make it difficult to find your true love. Many interested men will run from you due to this heavy baggage.
We can do our best together. You still might lose. You will have scars on your record. We might however be able to negotiate an amicable separation so no stains remain with you. You admit and recognize your mistakes. You accept some people are cheaters and have cheated you. However for the GOOD of all parties, including yourself, negotiating a settlement and walking away appears best for the husbands, your children and you.
HARD, HARD decision !!! I do not make this recommendation lightly. Know what the world is asking of you. Mother’s Day is Sunday. You would love to have all your kids with you in happiness, joy and love. This situation now is poisonous to all.
Jesus forgives! There is a blessed and joyous path for you if you wish to take this difficult step. I stand with you regardless of decision.
With love and aloha ~
Aubree: “But you’re right, this is my fault.”
I’m not here to assign fault … and don’t like when you BLAME yourself. However, 1st Hubby wants to destroy you; 2nd Hubby wants to cheat you. Together, we cannot defend your honor or lifestyle. You need a qualified attorney. You could end up with a DVRO on your record, limiting your future. You likely will lose custody of your son and they will beat you up forever — continuing to cheat you.
Likely then you’ll be back out on that ledge wanting your life to end. Are you going to die for these haters? Doesn’t help any of your children or you. You’re emotional, which is understandable. That’s why EVERYONE says get a good attorney.
If you’re willing to admit fault … then accept your mistake and move on. Don’t make another mistake that ruins your life!
Do you want to raise a son from a rapist? A cheater? A devil’s child? You will never be free of this Bad Man!!!
Aubree: “I know. I just can’t abandon my children ever.”
I see. So you now believe you’re qualified legally to prepare your defense?
Aubree: “I don’t have time for this, but I do greatly appreciate the time you took to help me 🙏🏼”
OK. Seems you’ve fired your pro bono pro se legal aide. Wish you well
Aubree then began attacking me; claiming I put her down; claiming I wasn’t treating her respectfully. I won’t list all the comments. Aubree then UNFRIENDED and BLOCKED me on social media.
Aubree: “Here is what else I know. I know what help looks like. I’m a singer and an athlete. You’re suggesting I’m emotional, you’re asking me to convince you of something I clearly don’t know how to do then putting me down for it. That’s not how help works. Remember I had an attorney for a minute and he never once talked to me like you’re talking to me. Attorneys help because everyone is emotional going through trials. They don’t put their client down, they say hey, I have learned how to speak without emotion and present facts, pay me and I’ll utilize my expertise to help you. So as a singer I hire a vocal coach to help me in areas I am not strong in, they correct me but don’t put me down. You can be honest and say this is a hard case, even both judges have said that. Both judges have said this is not a normal case. You can say that, but you’re not, you’re attacking my character and that isn’t help. I do appreciate your time, but I’m not so desperate that you’re going to put me down while claiming you’re helping me. I’m smarter than that.”
Aubree Childs hopes god will rescue her. I’m not confident that will happen. She’s posting requests for help on social media. Reached out to help a virtual “friend” in need. Being a Good Samaritan ended in disaster. If someone can assist Aubree, please do. Tried my best.
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The pattern and story of Abree. Her incessant need to be right will be the end of her. And now the court believes her to be mentally unstable and took her child. The court gave the father full custody with no visitation for Aubree. Imagine how bad she must be for that to happen. I’ve seen convinced murderers get supervised visitation, yet Abree gets none.
Appreciate your feedback and update to this dark, unfortunate story. We didn’t have an opportunity to review her mental state in a clinical environment, but it was clear she was extremely unstable. Advised her to SETTLE out of court … give father full custody and walk away. Abree would have left with a clear record. Now, court apparently found her OFFICIALLY unstable; same result, but leaves Abree with an OFFICIAL record of mental instability, and concerning, violent behavior.
As we wrote at the time, we ask anyone who knows Abree to reach out to help her. She seems desperate, confused and spiraling into deeper darkness. Thank you again for updating this story. Aloha
I don’t think the court OFFICIALLY found her unstable, but I believe they got that impression and told her to submit to a mental evaluation which she refused. This is all just hearsay on my part, I was not a direct witness to the hearing so I can’t vouch on accuracy. I do know for a fact the custody situation. The sad thing is people who were Abree’s friends for over 10 years tried to help her by discreetly pointing out her verbally and emotionally abusive behavior towards her immigrant husband and how it would backfire, which now it has. She reacted to that attempted intervention by cutting her friends off, blocking them on Facebook, tried smearing their names on social media, and made false reports to CPS and law enforcement. With all the noise she was making CPS started investigating her as well. Like I said her incessant need to be right and already know everything will only lead her to more suffering.
Appreciate the clarification and additional information.
Thank you for worrying about me! God is so good! He did vindicate me ❤️ My life is better than it’s ever been before!
be careful who you get your updates from. It’s unfortunate that you didn’t vet the people commenting and you’re claiming to be a professional. You didn’t ask them how they got their knowledge. I hope others aren’t trusting you to guide them, but it looks like my suspicions of not trusting you were right. I appreciate you asking the world to help me with my salvation. Means so much!
I don’t know who gave you this information but it’s inaccurate. This is the dangers of the internet. People with zero knowledge of the truth share their opinions and people believe it, destroying others lives. I hope this serves as a lesson to be better than that. Also thank you so much for your concern in my personal affairs. It means a lot that someone cares so much about my personal life. ❤️
I’ve know Aubree for several years.
Aubree is the proverbial “black hole” of help. So many people I know, including myself and my late wife tried to help her, both in a business guidance situation and in donating thousands of dollars worth of furniture and house supplies. Everything that seems to go to Aubree, help wise disappears into this black hole. My late wife gave up directing her on running the non-profit she helped set up, because she just couldn’t take direction. Weeks after giving Aubree and her family (which was now also included a foster daughter I could no longer take care of, due to wife’s death). Within weeks of donating all these good, Aubree was selling it off in a garage sale, which also included many of this now “new” foster daughter for Aubree’s possessions. She took in this girl and all of the good will from my donations for her knowing the insanity that was going on in her home at the same time. She blames everyone but herself. The foster girl had to leave after only a couple of months and of course, she blames the girl. Thankfully she was placed in an amazing stable home after this fiasco. Good will will only go so far. Im still pretty angry at what she did to me and hope that she finally sleeps in the bed she made.
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Aloha Ken ~
Thanks for taking the time to share your experiences and history. Appreciate your efforts and kindness!
Ken, we both know that’s not true, but thank you for making me realize how important I am, that you guys would make a whole post about me. ❤️