In my professional opinion, social media has become the most disastrous innovation in the history of human kind. Far more devastating than slavery, more cruel than what NAZIS did to over six million Jews. Social media has unleashed the worst of human behavior in their endless scroll windows.
Not only are keyboard warriors wasting most of their lives simply perusing inconsequential dramas, their addiction interferes with work, caring for family, building strong and positive relationships, and foments deep divides politically and between the sexes: men and women.
Due to the structure of social media scrolling pages, comments posted “now” will disappear from view and memory almost immediately. The “now” is infinite. Emotion is constantly triggered — positive or negative — without resolution or closure. We’re technological Pavlovian dogs being teased with promises of tasty morsels that are never realized. Similar to the illicit drug addict, we’re hooked seeking the fix that never comes.
To combat this endless mindlessness, each day I seek out an interesting conversation and post to ClearHealthLife so the discussion and participants are remembered. My goal is to encourage deeper thought, hold those who comment accountable, and hopefully push the Sisyphos rock of human evolution further up the hill.
A post by Molly Zola, who I refer to as DR Molly, caught my attention late last night. Answered in length. Heading to bed, wasn’t sure if DR Molly would respond professionally or simply unfriend, block and cancel. Serious people respond. Children on social media cancel. DR Molly responded.
DR Molly Unfriended, Blocked and Cancelled
NOTE: After sharing this article, DR Molly Zola unfriended, blocked and cancelled. That’s the WOKE mind disease. She attacked men. I tried to have an adult conversation. She proved to be an emotional child. Can’t “coach” people if one can’t be coached. Didn’t even listen to her own advice.
DR Molly’s response is one reason women have a hard time being president, CEOs, leaders in the military or society. Can’t accept criticism. Criticize me. I’ll respond. Let’s discuss and debate. The BEST idea or proposal wins the day. DR Molly said to confront your man. She claimed, “a truthful partner doesn’t panic at questions. He listens, explains, reassures because honesty thrives in transparency.” DR Molly ran away.
DR Molly became defensive. However, she told women, “Defensiveness isn’t communication it’s a distraction from what he’s hiding.” What is DR Molly hiding? She added, “Pay attention: Anger shields lies. Silence speaks louder than denial.” DR Molly’s silence is deafening.
DR Molly claims to be a student at International Coaching Federation; studied at Authentic Living. She impressed me writing, “I am stronger because I had to be I’m smarter because of mistakes, happier because of the sadness I’ve known, and wiser because I learned.”
DR Molly added, “A couple of years ago, I enrolled in a ‘coaching’ certification that was extremely psychodynamic in its approach. Are you clinically depressed? Are you suffering from PTSD? Are you dealing w deeply engrained limiting beliefs? This program I enrolled in told me that after I was done w their 6 month program, I’d be ready to responsibly guide you toward healing.”
DR Molly questioned the competency of the program, “It had been an interesting and thought provoking experience, but it was not graduate school,” And DR Molly humbly and sincerely suggested she wanted to do more:
“I want to truly be of service and do my true purpose work which is not being a therapist I don’t even want to pretend to be that As a result, I got the right Life Coaching training that the International Coaching Federation provides It is not therapy I’d say that 50% of the people who come to me are ready for Life Coaching as opposed to therapy.”
Molly Zola, Facebook, 7.7.25
Shoot For The Stars
In a related post, DR Molly wrote “be ready to shoot for the stars.” As a young athlete, had the opportunity to listen to a motivational speech by Rocky Bleier. Robert Patrick “Rocky” Bleier was a running back in the NFL. After his rookie season, Rocky was drafted in 1968 to fight in Vietnam. Rocky is an American hero. Coach Rocky also told us to shoot for the stars. He added however, “you may miss, so remember to grab some moon dust on the way down.” Never forgot his advice.
On August 20, while on patrol in Hiep Duc, Bleier was wounded in the left thigh by an enemy rifle bullet when his platoon was ambushed in a rice paddy. While he was down, an enemy grenade landed nearby after bouncing off a fellow soldier, he tried to leap over it and it exploded, sending shrapnel into his lower right leg. His right foot was severely damaged in the blast as well. He was later awarded the Bronze Star and Purple Heart.
Doctors told Rocky he would never play football again. Rocky didn’t listen. He defied the odds, and successfully grabbed much more than moon dust in the NFL.
Bleier played in the first four Steeler Super Bowl victories, and caught the touchdown pass from Terry Bradshaw that gave Pittsburgh a lead it would never relinquish in Super Bowl XIII. He also recovered Dallas’s onside kick in the closing seconds, sealing the Steelers’ victory.
Bleier retired after the 1980 season, with 3,865 rushing yards, 136 receptions for 1,294 yards, and 25 touchdowns. At the time of his retirement, he was the Steelers’ fourth all-time leading rusher. [source]
DR Molly Explains Men to Women
Although DR Molly suggested humility and concern to do more to empower people, her post of July 6, 2025, disturbed me deeply.
DR Molly wrote, “When a man reacts with anger instead of answers, he’s not uncomfortable he’s guilty.” Wow!!! A few months of training, a certificate or two, and DR Molly understands ALL men.
She’s instructing women that an angry response signifies he’s “guilty” as charged. I’ve been criticizing the president, FELON RAPIST 47, for denying alleged illegal immigrants due process. DR Molly coaches women to deny due process to men: “If they are angry, they are guilty.”
Imagine such coaching to an alleged illegal immigrant. ICE pulls them from work, their anger reaction is sufficient justification to conclude they are guilty, that they are an illegal immigrant, and should be immediately detained, jailed and deported.
DR Molly concludes, “Trust your gut. You’re not ‘too much’ you’re awake. And that’s your power.” POWER? One’s gut? One’s gut can be 100% emotional and devoid of fact. In fact, research shows our gut is generally wrong, but we forget the times our gut was wrong, remembering only the rare instances when our gut was right.
DR Molly’s additional comments were horrifying:
- A truthful partner doesn’t panic at questions. He listens, explains, reassures because honesty thrives in transparency.
- But if he twists your concerns into accusations, shifts blame, or shuts down, that’s not love – it’s manipulation.
- Defensiveness isn’t communication it’s a distraction from what he’s hiding.
- Pay attention: Anger shields lies. Silence speaks louder than denial.
- If he treats simple conversations like interrogations, ask yourself what’s he really protecting?
DR Molly has created a checklist for women. Miss any points. GUILTY !!!
Women, in my professional opinion, think they are near perfect. Remember Mary Poppins? “Practically perfect in every way.” She was. It’s Disney fantasy. They also believe they will find a nearly perfect man — a white knight in shining armor with a tender kiss. Again, it’s a Disney fantasy. Men and women are NOT perfect — not even close.
Social media, clearly imperfect, is awash with “extreme psychodynamic” analysis — particularly by women coaches and experts. Frequently when criticizing the comment of a woman, she responds, “You don’t know me.” Agreed! Never said I did. Was simply responding to her comment. DR Molly however KNOWS all of us men. She just told all women that she did.
I answered DR Molly late last night at length:
Here we go again: WOMANSPLAINING about men. How do you know what’s in EVERY man’s head? Maybe men are tired of being OVER-ANALYZED by women. Ever consider that angle?
OK. Let’s see how you play this game now. You made me uncomfortable with your accusation. I’m not responding with anger. I listened. But YOU are not being honest. You have ACCUSED without all the facts. You GENERALIZED.
I’m not hiding anything. I am however PROTECTING men. The world men enter each day is a fucking jungle. We’re attacked from every direction. Bosses want from us; clients want from us; wives and children want from us. The world wants a piece of us everyday.
Maybe a guy is exhausted. Walked into his castle, hoping for some peace. Needs some compassion, just ONE person to be on his side for just a moment. Instead, some BS question, “Why did you smile at Angela at the party three weeks ago?” WHAT??? Are you serious? You too? WTF???
You wrote, “He’ll offer answers freely, valuing your peace over his ego.” FREELY? Why did I smile at Angela? What are you talking about? Why are you even asking that? Can’t I have some peace? EGO??? I have no more ego. The world beat the shit outta me today. I simply wanted a fucking hug.
I’m outta here!!!
Now, how does DR Molly respond?
DR Molly responded. She has TWO SONS, and therefore, claims she knows how “different it is out in this world.” I’m not sure she does. Our boys suffer a “Boy Crisis.” They are not wanted in society. For every boy who graduates from college, two women will.
Wrote yesterday how Shell Danis and Francesca Ball Show How the WOKE LEFT Misses the Point in their accusations about White men. Or the previous day, how Kaylani Boland now is the reason WHY I Now Support MAGA. And recently, criticized a WOKE British female journalist for Sapping Young Men of Their Desire to Work. Need more? What the fuck are women doing to men on social media?
I’ve got two sons whom I am so very close to and I know how different it is out in this world That’s first Total compassion and empathy for that
I think if a question is asked in a tone that is accusatory, upset, angry… I’d say there’s lots of ways to reframe the question or conversation Absolutely! In the example you are giving..” why did you smile at Angela two weeks ago”.. and you resent the implications because the tone of the question was accusatory and angry.. a man in love might be concerned with “why are WE here, discussing this?” It’s so much more then just that question Trust is huge in a happy relationship Even if the question seems absurd to you, it’s still signals a pretty big problem I wouldn’t ignore that or be angry about it It’s time to look at how this developed I wouldn’t see it as a YOU problem but a problem with US If you value the relationship, it’s an opportunity to find out where changes need to be made If you don’t want to be bothered w it.. if it’s not something you want to be confronted with.. I’d say there’s probably not a lot of desire to find solutions to pretty significant issues of trust in the relationship I’d just be honest and tell her you want out Not because you cheated (because you didn’t), it because you don’t care about the health of that particular relationship It’s not worth it to you
Now, DR Molly backtracks. TONE of the woman’s question is important. She didn’t include that in her initial instructions. State of mind of the man, and women, are also important. She didn’t include these variable either. In fact, there are a million considerations to be considered. Relationships are difficult.
My wife and I know. We’ll celebrate our 27th wedding anniversary this month. At times, she failed and falsely accused me; at times, I failed and reacted with anger. We’ve always been honest with each other.
At times, that honesty has hurt feelings. Neither of us has cheated. Both of us are desirable and have had many opportunities. However, what has worked for us may not work for others. Relationships are NOT a checklist — they are a form of art and require much work. WORK !!! WORK !!!
WOKE Women Created MAGA
Society embarked on a mission to empower women in 1972, passing Title IX. This federal legislation required equality in education funding. Generally, boys and girls received the same funding in the classroom: books were books. The biggest shift was in sports.
I entered my sophomore year of high school in 1972. At that time, boys received about 80% of funding, due primarily to football, and girls 20%. At 8 years of age, I committed to being a pro basketball player. My father was a coach. Had two sisters. His high school players became my brothers. All I ever wanted to do was be a ballplayer. Every minute of my young life was devoted to this goal. I was shooting hoops to reach the stars.
My father would take all three of us to the high school on Sundays. I would pound the ball, shoot and run drills by myself. My sisters lasted about five minutes and then drifted off somewhere to talk. He would work with me; I became more motivated. He would work with them; they became more disinterested. Same efforts with all three of us. They simply weren’t interested.
Yet in 1972, the federal government mandated that my sisters would receive half — was our first national DEI (Diversity, Equity and Inclusion) program. How angry was I? We only had one gym. We needed a full court or full hour. Due to government, we now had half a court or half an hour.
My sisters didn’t want to play. However, government needed them to turnout so they could justify the program. My oldest sister disliked every moment. She preferred the dance and drill teams. My youngest sister hated practices. She was the best athlete in our family. Didn’t train, lift weights or show up to practice.
She would simply show up to the games or track meet. Lace up her shoes, get set, go! She would win. Don’t believe she ever lost. As a sophomore, she defeated the top runner in the state, a senior Black female who had beaten everyone. Had my sister cared 1/10th as much as me, she would have won an Olympic Gold medal. She regrets her ambivalence today, unfortunately for her. She would have loved the gold. She didn’t want to sweat enough to reach the stars.
These WOKE initiatives pissed off millions of men. Our coaches, the players, had worked our asses off to build these programs. Coaches put in long hours, years of dedication, to develop the programs and players. We knocked on doors to raise money, as well as train 6-7 days per week. One signature by the president, 50% was gone.
The SOLUTION was simple. Don’t take HALF of what boys and men had earned. Just build TWO gyms, two fields: one for football, one for soccer. Win/Win. Instead, the RICH in America were selfish. They didn’t want to fund both boys and girls … twice the cost. No, they preferred to pit boys against girls; men against women. You fight it out: 50/50. Win/Lose.
Thus, Election 2024, and social media today, is WOKE vs MAGA. WOKE began attacking males, particularly White boys and men, around the 1970s. Election 2024 became the culmination of that social and political war. MAGA crushed WOKE. The president, FELON RAPIST 47, signed Executive Orders on Day 1 ending WOKE, DEI, CRT and PC policies.
He shredded the US Department of Education for pushing this extremist WOKE agenda. He followed by neutering the EEOC, DOJ, FBI and US military. MAGA rules. WOKE is dead, as least for now. The “extreme psychodynamic” analysis — particularly by women against White men — led to the MAGA dictator in the White House — The NARCISSIST.
He’s not really interested in resolving conflict. Those who know his true agenda understand he’s simply feeding his extreme narcissist ego and creating generational wealth for his family.
DR Molly’s advice is right on point politically. Rephrase her recommendations: But if [The NARCISSIST] twists your concerns into accusations, shifts blame, or shuts down, that’s not love – it’s manipulation. Defensiveness isn’t communication it’s a distraction from what [The NARCISSIST] is hiding.
Pay attention: Anger shields lies. Silence speaks louder than denial. If [The NARCISSIST] treats simple conversations like interrogations, ask yourself what is [The NARCISSIST] really protecting?
A man who respects you won’t make you feel crazy for seeking clarity. He’ll offer answers freely, valuing your peace over his ego. Anything less isn’t love; it’s control. Trust your gut. You’re not “too much” you’re WOKE. And that’s your power.
Americans and the world suffer a despicable despotic dictator at this time. I suggest men and women spend less time shredding each other on social media and more time working together to win back our democracy.
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